Self-Talk – Tackling those Demons
I can’t do that. Who do you think you are? What makes you think you any different?
It’s an easy path to take. Talking down to ourselves. It’s a sure fire way of stopping ourselves from moving into our next space, most of know that, but we still do it.
Why?
The answer is individual and there isn’t a one-rule fits all. We all have “stuff” from the past that triggers us into feeling inadequate.
The good news is, there is plenty we can do to combat this. However, it starts with an intention to stop and this starts with you. Firstly, recognise and accept that you are doing this to yourself. Being inside our head makes a readily available private space to do a bit of “confidence-bashing”. So you have to be your own best-friend and start telling yourself to stop.
Recognise it is habit-forming. Maybe you have been doing this subconsciously for years. So start being conscious, start being aware of when you are doing this. Catch yourself out. Set a little competition with yourself that you will stop yourself before you are a few seconds into the negative self-talk.
Create the big red stop button. Have you ever been on an escalator and someone has pushed the big red STOP button and everyone stops in their tracks? That’s what I want you to create in your head. Go one step further and draw a stop button on a piece of paper, put it somewhere close and hit that stop button when the thoughts start to head in the wrong direction.
Start filling up the Happy Bank. For every time you catch yourself saying something non-productive to yourself, bank TWO things in your life that you are grateful for. One to cancel out the negative given, one to hold in the Bank of Happy Thoughts. We all have something to be thankful
Start practising these each and every time and you will find, like all bad habits, the negative self-talk will start to
